The Humility Advantage

The Cost of "Always Yes": Escaping the Pleaser Saboteur

J Alexander Season 1 Episode 12

 If you struggle to say 'no,' often feel depleted, and silently resent those you help, you’re caught by the Pleaser Saboteur

We dive into the science of this compulsion, exploring how the Anterior Cingulate Cortex links social rejection to literal pain, driving your addiction to external approval. 

This episode provides the essential strategy: shifting from External Validation Mode to Internal Self-Worth Mode. Discover how to use the 5 Sage Powers—especially Navigate and Activate—to define and enforce your boundaries. 

Learn how 10-second PQ Reps act as an internal self-validation tool, overriding the immediate impulse to accommodate and fostering true, authentic connection.